There is a different road of suffering we will all travel. It doesn’t involve a cancer diagnosis, the loss of a spouse or child or whatever else may bring pain into another’s life. But yet it does. This diagnosis, loss or pain of a loved one in our lives causes us to also be on a road of suffering alongside them.
Noah Webster defines suffering as: The bearing of pain, inconvenience or loss; pain endured; distress, loss or injury incurred.
I don’t want to equate our suffering with the one going through the affliction. Our suffering isn’t the same when our bodies are still healthy and our families full.
But we bear the pain of their pain.
We cry and cry some more. As I started tearing up over lunch with my friend who has stage IV colon cancer she asked, “Why do people do that?” I quickly changed the subject because I would have only cried more trying to explain. But we cry because we don’t want to see our loved one going through this.
We want to do. I want to take meals, clean, be the chauffeur for trips to the hospital. “We don’t need those things right now.” And I resign myself.
We want to do because we don’t know what else to do.
We pray. I wish my friend’s cancer wasn’t what propelled me to spend more time in prayer but it was. I pray for her strength, peace, comfort that can only come from the Lord. And I pray for a miracle. That this chemo will drive the cancer out onto the road of remission.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4