That troubler tosses the mind
Into what-ifs, should-haves and whys
A lament of loss for an earlier time.
If only I had done this
How different life could be
It’s hard to wrap my thoughts
Around choice and God’s sovereignty.
“Please, Lord, another chance,”
With tears to Him I plea.
The Sovereign silent knowing
This is His sanctification of me.
Regret takes our mind off of the Lord and focuses it on us. We play out the different scenarios of what could have been if only we had said or did (You fill in the blank). Regret can cause us to become bitter or bear a self-made guilt that can hinder and or destroy our relationships. Sometimes we long to go back to something we had before but God wants us to move forward. What are we to do when regret takes hold of us?
If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. -Colossians 3:1,2 (ESV)
First, we must seek the Lord. Pour out our sorrow to Him. Does our regret involve a sin issue? An example would be knowing that we should have asked forgiveness from someone but didn’t. We should do what we can to make the situation right. In my own life I have found that when a situation didn’t go as planned the Lord is usually doing a work in my heart. He is using that regret to sanctify me and make me more like Christ.
Second, we are to set our minds on things above. We may never understand why God had us go through a situation. We can beg and plead with Him to change it, but in the end it comes down to our faith. Our focus turns from ourselves to God. We have to trust that He knows what is best for us. Sometimes we get a do-over and sometimes we have to let go.
If you are in a season of regret, I pray you would seek the Lord in prayer and set your mind on Him and not yourself or circumstances.